Week 49--Seven Days in a Row

Wifey was apprehensive about anal.  That, above all of our potential challenges was the one that worried her the most.  Anal is a turn on for me, so I had no such worry.  But when I looked down the list of challenges this time last year "seven days in a row" was the one that worried me.

Thinking back, I can't ever remember having sex for more than 5 or 6 days in a row, even at our peak.  Seven doesn't seem like that much of a stretch, but when you're older and have a busy life with kids, we rarely exceed 3 days in a row.  Also, the notion of having to have sex saps a little of the enthusiasm for us because it adds a sense of pressure.  To top things off, wifey had run into some health problems and we've been using condoms, which makes it really difficult for me to get off unless I'm really turned on.  This is a problem even though they're thin and fit well--by far the best condom's we've ever used.  The biggest thing for me is that its hard for me to get really turned on without the build-up between sessions.

But shaking these issues is what this challenge is all about.  Besides, it's only been a couple of weeks since wifey was out of commission sexually.  That was basically two weeks without sex, at which point I was bursting with horniness.  Since, we've been back on the bandwagon enjoying normal, fun, spontaneous, sometimes intense sex.  I focused on that time when we couldn't have sex and felt thankful for, rather than lamenting, the have-to sex situation.  It worked...at first.

The first two days were fine.  We had our normal, great sex.  Day three, we had some good afternoon sex before heading to a family get-together.  I had a few drinks and some good food, and developed a scratchy throat, which I thought was just from dry air and talking too much.  But, alas, days 4 and 5 it blossomed into a full-blown cold.  I was tired and sick and wifey was starting to feel like having sex was a chore.  Worse, it was getting more difficult for me to achieve and maintain an erection because I just wasn't into it and it was hard work for me to get off because I was wearing a condom.  But we soldiered on, having some admittedly uninspired sex.  Day 6, we had sex in the basement just as a change of scenery.  Day 7, we rejoyced...then had sex.

To be fair, it was an unusually long and busy week from a work and home life standpoint and I was feeling run down from a cold.  This was a difficult challenge for both of us for one simple reason: we don't like feeling like sex is a chore.  We've worked hard to cultivate a relationship rich in sexual openness and the "have-to" mentality seemed like an affront to that.

Week 48--Basement sex

We've had sex in our basement dozens of times.  The biggest problem is that, like a lot of basements, it's pretty chilly, even though it's finished.  Wifey gets cold pretty easily, so getting her to strip down for some nookie in our basement in December is a tall order.

But this time is different, as this night is the maiden voyage for our new fire place.  I got it fired up about 2 hours before we eventually headed downstairs for some playtime.  We spread a blanket out right in front of the fireplace and got down to business.  We started with some good 69, which is one of the things from this challenge which has worked it's way into our regular sex rotation, before getting into our favorite positions.

We always enjoy sex in different rooms.  It's just nice to change the scenery.  With a fireplace downstairs making it comfy and cozy, I have a feeling that this is something that will be happening with more frequency.

Week 47--Ice

I had great designs on this "ice" challenge.  I did some research.  I was creative, damnit.

We'd dabbled a bit with ice in the past.  We'd had a little fun and done the whole "BJ with ice" thing in the past.  It was fun and an interesting sensation, but I found it a little more numbing and less arousing.  This challenge is about new experiences and I thought we needed to try something different.  So a little research gave me the idea of making an ice dildo by filling a condom with water

But here's the problem: wifey will freeze to death at the drop of a hat.  I literally couldn't touch her with it anywhere, so we eventually got impatient and had sex.  Really good sex...just not very icy.

Week 46--Three Times In A Day

Three times in a day.  We've done this before.  Sure...when we were young and randy, but, hey...it's like riding a bike.  Right?  Right.  We're off for the holidays with nothing pressing to do, so it'll just be a little morning-noon-night action.

As usual, she was up earlier than I was and zipped downstairs to have coffee.  Sometime...uh, later...she came up and started to strip down with a happy, "Wake up...it's time to have sex!"  I was awake and naked right away and we jumped in for some morning sex.  I like morning sex, but, for whatever reason, the sensations aren't as intense for me.  Couple that with the fact that we're temporarily using condoms for contraception and you have a guy with relentless stamina early in the morning.

After a day of...well, really doing nothing...we started to get ready to go out and hear some music.  Time for round two.  "NO!"  She exclaimed.  We had a contractor in the house doing some work and she got bashful all of a sudden.  But I was able to talk her into a doggie-style quickie in the bedroom while we were "changing."  Again, with the condoms, I found it hard to get off.  I kept increasing the speed and depth of my strokes to get as much stimulus as possible, which resulted in a barrage of orgasms for her.  Ultimately, though, we pulled off the condom and wifey finished me off by hand.

Fast forward to 1:30 am.  We've been out with friends hearing some great live music.  By this point, it's late, we'd had plenty of sex the last 96 hours and we just wanted to go to bed.  But we're gamers.  Round three.  Okay, so it was a bit less inspired than the last two sessions, but still good.  After doing it twice before and wearing a condom, there was no way I was going to cum.  So once again, wifey's skilled hands to the rescue.

We have had sex three times in a day before when we were young and in lust, so we thought it would be a piece of cake.  But the incremental difficulty between twice and three times in a day was definitely noticeable.

Week 45--Commando

We've been gone for a few days with a medical illness, but we're back...undeterred.  Time to catch up after basically two weeks off.

We had a little unexpected hiatus, but a weekend full of sexy time.  We had a long, intense romp on Friday afternoon before going out to run errands.  This will probably be the warmest day of the waning year, so it's a good time for wifey to go sans panties.  We ran around, made a couple of stops and popped into a cafe  for coffee...all while wifey was nude under her pants.

This was less of a turn on for me than I thought.  I thought that knowing that she was running around without panties would get me wound up, but it really didn't.  Similarly, she didn't feel as sexy as I thought she would.  She was more chilly and self-conscious than anything else.  If we had it to do over again, we would probably wait to have sex until afterwards so we can think about it and get turned on  But, let's face it...nothing beats some spontaneous afternoon sex.

Week 44--Shower sex

We actually completed a challenge early for a change.  You can read about our challenge here.

Week 43--Erotic massage

We actually have a 3-for-1 this week: past, present and future.  We have a make up from last week (pheromones), this week's challenge (erotic massage) and, since wifey is going to be out of commission for next week, a future challenge (shower sex).  This should be interesting...

The first two are an obvious match: we have strawberry-scented pheromone massage oil.  It's basically mineral oil with a fancy scent and...pheromones.  I'm skeptical of the effects of pheromones, but then again, I was skeptical of aphrodisiacs.  I've eaten them twice and I swear that there's a noticeable effect on how sensitive I am and how strong my orgasms are.  So let's keep an open mind.

It was a little chilly, but wifey and I stripped down down for a sensual massage.  She laid on her stomach and I straddled her legs and began to rub her back, neck and shoulders.  Almost immediately, I started to get hard.  I'm not really sure why...there wasn't much stimulation other than visual, but it happened more quickly than I anticipated.  Eventually, my hands started to wander...down to her butt...around to her boobs.  After about 20 minutes, we switched.  For me, the massage was more relaxing than arousing, but after a while, she rolled me over and took me into her mouth.  From there, it was a graceful flow through a number of positions: cowgirl, missionary and culminating in her massive orgasm in doggy.  I held off (barely) and we ran up stairs for our third challenge.

We had a little sample pack of silicone lube that I was saving for anal exploration, but the waterproof nature of it made it perfect for shower sex.  We jumped in and immediately got to some doggy style.  After a couple more orgasms, I finished.  The best part of shower sex is that you don't have to worry about clean up.

I don't really know what to say about pheromones.  Females are supposed to be more sensitive to the effects of pheromones, but she didn't really seem to be any different.  I got an erection surprisingly early in the game, but I was laying on my nude wife, so it's hard to credit the pheromones.  I'm not a believer.  As for the massage, wifey did say, multiple times, "you could do this every week and I'd be happy."  I'm not a huge massage fan, though.  I got way more turned on giving the massage than receiving it.  Shower sex was fun and novel, but cramped.  It would be better if it was a spontaneous thing, but it requires waterproof lube and some prep, which takes away from the fun and makes it just uncomfortable sex.  Most importantly, though, it was an opportunity to have some fun, uninhibited sex.

Week 42--Pheromones

No opportunities this week.  We'll do a make up here.

Week 41--Deep Throat

Two challenges this week: porn night (from last week) and deep throat.

We're definitely no strangers to porn, but it's been years since we've spent more than a few minutes watching porn together.  When we were dating, I had a monthly subscription to PlayboyTV and we became pretty big fans of a few of their shows.  Since, kids have prevented most of our porn watching, but this is a good opportunity to bring some of that porn fun back and branch out a bit.  Rather than just sticking with PlayboyTV or internet porn, I ordered up a 3-hour all-access block of six channels so we have some variety.  If you've never watched TV porn it's very...traditional.  Traditional girls and guys, positions, sights and sounds.  But mixed into that, there is a fair bit of amateur action, which we both like.  After about 2 hours, wifey says out of the blue, "This is working.  I'm feeling a little tingle."  And she was.

Deep throating, though, is something new for us, even considering wifey's considerable oral prowess.  She frequently takes me in all the way to the back of her throat, but we've never actually tried to deep throat, mostly because she has a small mouth and throat and I'm a bit larger than average.  I've done a little bit of research and we're going to see if we can pull it off using positioning and a few techniques.

When we retired upstairs, we got right to business.  Wifey, as she usually does, gave great oral and took me deep into her mouth.  But position is important and we tried several positions to make her throat as straight as possible to accommodate me.  I read a lot about the 69 woman on top position because she can control the depth and angle.  I definitely felt like I went a little deeper and I got to play with her in the process (which, I think was a little bit distracting).  My ace in the hole was the position I heard recommended the most: her on her back with her head hanging off the bed.  This position lines up the throat for penetration, but the problem is that she is on her back and has no control over the depth of penetration.  Conscious of gagging her too much, I was too hesitant to really push things.  Besides, I sensed she was tired of gagging.  I definitely think the 69 position was the deepest penetration we achieved, but we never quite got there.

But after all of this is where things get interesting.  I dragged her to the edge of the bed and went down on her.  As she started to cum, I inserted a finger and continued to work on her clit with my tongue.  This is one of her favorite things and she came...and came...and came.  Later, she said that she'd never cum for that long at a time.  When I finally let her up, I kept her at the end of the bed as we went at it--another of her favorites.  As we transitioned from missionary to doggystyle she continued to climax again and again, almost wearing herself out.

I asked her what the reason was for this amazing performance.  The porn?  The little added kink of the deep throat?  The oral?  "I dunno.  All of it, I think."  Whatever the reason, it was a great night.

Week 40--Porn night

Porn night was postponed due to kid duties.  We'll make up next week.

Week 39--Car sex

To be honest, sex in a car is not necessary for adults.  I mean, we're not sneaky teens...hot and horny and down for a hump without anywhere to go.  We're married adults...hot and horny and down for a hump.  So why would we go through the trouble?  Really just for fun.  I mean, it's a neat, playful thing to try.  Or so we thought...

With no kids in the house, we had a nice dinner and the fired up the fire pit for the first time this year.  After some relaxation, we decided to get at it.  I sort of had a notion to go "park" somewhere, but better not to add any complexity.  We just stuck to the garage...back of the SUV it is.  It's a full-sized SUV, but leg room doesn't necessarily translate into, um, nookie room.

After getting in and losing the pants, we got right to it.  The problem is that wifey has legs that go all the way up, so  her straddling me wouldn't work.  Similarly, my plan to have her in reverse cowgirl was a no go because her knees kept hitting the front seats.  Eventually we got comfortable with her on her side on the back seat and me with one knee on the seat and an awkwardly bent leg supporting me on the floor.  We actually worked up a good rhythm before my right leg got a bit wobbly.  She rolled onto her back and we resumed in a missionary-style position.  She even had an orgasm, which was surprising given the conditions.

This was actually pretty fun.  It was every bit as annoying as it was playful and silly.  We don't have a reason to do this, but that's the point...it was "just because."  Would we do it again?  No.  But we had fun in the moment.

Week 38--69

We are 69 veterans.  We both love to give oral, so it's something we both enjoy.  We don't do it often, but we sprinkle it into the rotation for some variety.  When we 69, it's always the same--she's on top, I'm on the bottom.  So for this challenge, we decided to dabble in some variations of the position to see if we could find something new that we liked.

We started off with her on top as usual.  And it was spectacular, as usual.  This is one of my favorite positions because her hand is rotated 180 degrees, so her fingers are solidly on the most sensitive underside of the shaft instead of the gap between her fingers and palm.  It may not sound like much, but it really increases the intensity...for me, at least. Wifey has mind-boggling oral skills as it is, so in this position, I have to *ahem* prompt her slow her pace every once in a while.  Her?  Well, it took a few minutes for her to get warmed up, but the moans and heavy breathing started coming fast and furious.

As much as we enjoy the girl-on-top position, we've never tried the guy-on-top version.  We've talked about it, but never done it.  And now we know why.  Here's the thing--the guy-on-top position works...if the guy is taller than the girl.  Not the case here, so as I straddled her, we had to choose which one was going to be in the other's mouth.  It just wasn't possible to do both.  Also, even with my knees by her ears, she couldn't get me in and out of her mouth without me raising my hips up.  NO mas...

Finally, another new position: sideways.  We each laid on our left side and lifted our right legs.  This position is nice because you can use your partners leg as a pillow.  While the girl-on-top position got me going, she had her fun here.  I found it much easier to reach around and use my hands on her, inserting a finger in both holes.  She came two or three times in just a couple of minutes.

Since things were getting intense, we had to end the experience there and switch to some doggystyle sex and she came several more times.  All in all, it was great sex and the sideways 69 position is one that we'll definitely revisit.

Week 37--Tit fuck

Two challenge week this week, since we had a horrifically busy week last week: aphrodesiacs from last we and tit fuck this week.

As I walked around the grocery store picking out aphrodesiacs, I was a little...skeptical, to say the least.  I thought this would be one of those things that we were curious about, but it all turned out to be a bunch of wives tales and voodoo.  Nonetheless...the grocery list: almonds, bananas, guacamole, asparagus and chocolate.  I couldn't get my hands on any oysters, so those were out.  Wifey worked all day and I had a nice dinner for her...featuring asparagus.  Later, we snacked on almonds throughout the evening while we watched TV.  For dessert, we had chocolate-covered bananas with a few more almonds.  Before bed she asks, "Are you super horny?"  Not really.  I didn't feel any different.

In bed, things are getting heated up and she goes down to give a little oral...and it feels good, as always.  Soon she stops to ask about how we're going to pull off our second challenge of the night.  She went back down and things were really intense.  It's like someone flipped a switch and my shaft got really sensitive in a span of about 2 minutes without stimulation.  Very suspicious...

She stops and we proceed to have some normal (for us) sex...missionary to her side to doggy...with a couple of orgasms.  Things feel pretty normal for me.  When we decide to go for the TF, she gets a little tense, which is typical when she starts to over-think things.  First, I was sitting up on the side of the bed and she was on her knees on the floor in front of me.  As soon as she wrapped her boobs around my shaft and started stroking, the extra-sensitive feeling came back.  We dabbled a bit with me standing and her on the floor on her knees, but that just didn't work.  We ended up with her on her back and me straddling her and I gave her her first pearl necklace.  Again, I was more sensitive than is normal and my orgasm was surprisingly intense.

The verdicts?  The TF was awesome.  It really boils down to one thing: boobies feel great on your penis.  It was a great constellation of sensations with her firm chest on the bottom of my shaft, her soft boobs on the side and her fingers on the top.  I didn't think I would have enough stimulation to get off, but, surprisingly, I did.  Which brings me to aphrodesiacs.  We intentionally went a little overboard, eating a pretty good "dose" over the last few hours before bed.  I don't think wifey thought sex was anything other than normal and the  TF was pretty much about me.  I didn't think much of it when we talked it in bed that night, but in retrospect, I can't help but wonder if the aphrodesiacs made me more sensitive than I'm used to.  It was surprisingly intense.  I'd like to try again to see if I can reproduce these results and, if so, my diet will change substantially.

Week 36--Aphrodesiacs

Busy, busy week and no time for a challenge.  We will make it up next week.

Week 35--Outdoor/Public sex

This is a really tough one to figure out.  How public should we be?  Do we go to a park?  In the car?  Do we do it outside in a tent?  The possibilities are endless.  We had a pretty busy weekend, so we elected to keep it simple: a little romp on our back patio.  Now, that may not sound like much, but we have neighbors--an elderly couple on one side and a young couple with young kids on the other.  We use our back yard like a room...grill, fire pit, patio with nice furniture, music...the whole nine yards.  Since we spend so much time out there, we've created a fair amount of privacy using shrubbery, fencing and trees.  Still, we live at the intersection of a busy street and a cul de sac, so there's plenty of walking and driving traffic. 

We went out to hear some live music and have some drinks last night.  When we got home, showered and headed outside onto our loveseat at about 9:30 pm.  The weather today was perfect...75 degrees during the day and a brisk 68 when we ventured outside.  I had her change into a longer camisole that I could hike up.  You know...just in case.  I was wearing a tee shirt and sweat pants.  We had put a towel down on the cushions of the loveseat and covered ourselves with a blanket.  The contrast of the heavy blanket and the cool air and bricks on my feet made it really comfortable.  Wifey was a little nervous because we could hear people walking around talking in the front of the house and a couple of cars drove by the back yard while we were fooling around.  It didn't take long before my pants were down and her top was pulled down.  We fooled around for about 20 minutes before she straddled me.

As soon as I was inside, she seemed to instantly forget that we were in public.  She got into it...she moaned, she talked dirty, she bucked hard.  Huh...  She swears that public sex isn't a turn-on for her, but she was at least as dirty as she is in the bedroom, so I can confidently say that it didn't hinder her performance.  Me?  I've never been bashful, so it's not a turn-on or turn-off for me, either.  We both did enjoy having sex outside.  There's something about the sounds, smells and feeling of it that we both loved.

Week 34--Facial

Finally...

After a relentlessly busy few weeks in which we fell behind a bit, we're finally caught up with our challenges.  Our original challenge was impossible this week (kids), so we were forced to redraw.  When I told wifey what the challenge was, she immediately had the same reaction that she'd had when we drew anal: "Oh, God..."  The response was less than inspiring for me, but this should be a fun, playful challenge.  We don't do much in the way of dom/sub play or degradation, so I was concerned that she was uncomfortable with this.  She said she was, but not overly so.  If she was, she would shut it down.  Like a trooper.

So late one night, we get cozy.  She insisted that this be a blowjob, even though I mentioned that I can pull out during sex.  So I proceeded to quietly receive some more of that magical oral magic.  First, I was sitting on the bed, but realized that I'd eventually have to stand up, but once I started standing, it was a little harder to get off.  But, as always, I managed.  She sat back on the floor as I took over and she immediately started giggling.  It only took a second and I let loose on her chin.  There wasn't very much cum, but  it was well palced on her chin and a little in her mouth. 

The act itself was fun, in a porn star sort of way, but the orgasm wasn't as good as when she swallows because my hands were dry.  I thought it was fun, but its one of those things where my excitement about it mimics hers.  If she was begging me to cum on her face, I'd find her arousal more exciting than the act itself.  But, as it were, she wasn't super turned on by it, so I wasn't either.  It was better for her than she expected and she was surprisingly turned on by watching me masturbate, which she's never seen before.

We may or may not do it again, but it was an interesting challenge.

Week 33--Kitchen Sex

Two challenges this week: sex games and kitchen sex. DOUBLE TIME...come hell or high water...

We decided that our game would be to watch some porn, which we've done before, and try to do whatever they were doing in the film.  We thought this game up (but never actually did it) when we had a subscription to PlayboyTV years ago.  We'd spend several hours a week watching various porn films and documentaries on there over the years, but gave it up when the kids were old enough to poke around on my basement TV.  But, on a Sunday night, there was nothing good on, so we went with free, full length internet porn.  We surfed around, but couldn't really find anything that got wifey going.  It was sort of a catch 22 because if we escalated to something deviant and super kinky, she may not have been willing to act it out, but she was pretty desensitized to the standard-issue porn.  So that fizzled pretty spectacularly...

...but kitchen sex, now that was something different.  We made our way upstairs and as we stood in our pretty basic kitchen, we didn't really know what to do or expect.  Sure, there's doggy over the counter, but that's pretty cliche.  Wifey, being clever, grabbed a towel and insisted that I sit on the counter in the corner so she could give me some oral.  Which she did.  And it was incredible.  Then we did some doggy with a twist...with me still sitting on the counter and her standing on a stool with her legs closed.  It was pretty ambitious, but it felt really good.  Balance was an issue, though, so we switched and she hopped up on the counter facing me and I stood on the floor.  For whatever reason, this hit the right spots at the right angle for her and she came two or three times. 

So, one out of two ain't bad.  The porn thing fizzled, but we more than made up for it with some pretty spontaneous and creative kitchen sex.

Week 32--Sex games

Again, make up time!  We're a week behind, so we need to make up our challenge from last week: mirrors.  This is tricky because we don't have many mirrors in our house, but we do have a dresser in our bedroom with a large 4' x 4' mirror, which means abandoning the bed for sex, which is always a fun way to mix it up. 

We started off with me standing in front of the mirror and her on her knees giving me oral.  Now, this was her idea and I didn't think it would be that exciting, but, if you've never seen your significant sucking your dick from a different angle, I recommend it...I found the third person perspective is really erotic..  And, I was surprised at how "bigger" I looked in the mirror.  After some good foreplay, she stood and we went at it doggystyle in the mirror standing with her bent over/braced against the dresser.  Again, watching us in the mirror was like watching an erotic movie.  It was incredibly sexy to be able to see her back, ass and hips as normal, but then glance over an see her face, boobs and legs.  Oh, and it was nice to see her reach between her legs and play with herself, too.  I have a feeling that this is going to get worked in to the rotation...

This week's challenge is a "sex game," which we didn't make time for.  Two challenges next week!

Week 31--Mirrors

Our challenge this week is to have sex in front of mirrors, but we had a challenge to make up from last week: hot candle wax.  After all of the chaos of the last 2 weeks, we've been pretty bushed lately.  But we pride ourselves in our tendency to not allow our busy lives to grind our sex lives to a halt.  So, we tackle challenge number one late on a weekend night.

Wifey is very tactile and the thought of the pleasure and pain of hot candle wax had her both scared and aroused at the same time.  We lit some candles and got ready--she went first, insisting that we start with the small of her back.  The first few drops caused her to gasp and exclaim, "That's hot!"  Duh. Still, it was a little alarming for me because I thought it might be too much pain, but she insisted it was fine.  After a few more pours, we decided to pour some on the more sensitive skin of her boobs to see what that was like.  She was nervous and giggly with anticipation.  She writhed as the hot wax burned, then cooled on her skin.  She insisted that she pour some on my chest so I could experience it.  It was hot, but I have to say that it didn't to much for me sexually.

A couple of observations about our half hour of playtime:  First, I think this challenge turned out to be a lot less sexual than I expected.  Being as touchy-feely as she is, I expected wifey to be a lot more aroused than she actually was.  It seemed more like an experiment than fun sexytime.  She just wasn't really revved up.  Second, clean up is a BITCH.  It's impossible to get the cooled wax off your skin.  We found ourselves worrying about how much wax was getting where instead of worrying about being sexual.  I really think that took a lot away from the experience.  If we do it again, we'll do it before a shower and use some towels.  Overall, it wasn't bad, but wasn't what we expected.

Mirrors was postponed due to time constraints, but we made it up here.

week 30--Hot Candle Wax

Unfortunately, we had a sizeable family emergency this week, so a sex challenge was the farthest thing from our minds. The good news is that, after a short family vacation, things will be hopefully back to normal by next week. You can read about our candle wax experience here.

Week 29--TV Room Sex

Before I moved in with my wife, and before I had constructed my glorious man cave in the basement, we spent a lot of time watching TV in what is now the TV room...a small room with a day bed that the kids watch TV in. Of course, there was a fair amount of nookie in that room, too. So when we drew the challenge to have more sex in there, I thought, "how hard can it be?"

Uh...yeah. Hard, apparently. We just couldn't get it together for some reason. It was the most uncomfortable and awkward sex we've had in years...maybe ever. The day bed was terribly uncomfortable and we couldn't find a position that worked, so we ended up kneeling on the floor up against the daybed. We both agreed that we couldn't get done fast enough.

Week 28--Quickie

We've had quickies before, even in this challenge.  Personally, quickies are nice if we're having plenty of sex.  If it's been a little while, I prefer some longer sex.  Wifey's lady bits were closed for "maintenance" this week, so we'd gone eight days without any sex.  I wasn't terribly thrilled with the notion of a quickie because I wanted to enjoy myself for a little bit longer.

But, unfortunately, after an eight-day dry spell, that was less up to me than usual.  Ready or not, it was time for an inadvertent quickie...

Week 27--Food Play

Another week, another makeup.  This week's challenge is "food play," but first we had to make up our challenge from last week.  We've had afternoon sex a number of times and its always good.  Its spontaneous.  Its refreshing.  And it makes me very sleepy.  We headed upstairs early afternoon on a mutual day off for some play.  We took this as an opportunity to get into the toy chest and dabble with the butt plug and the vibrating cock ring.  Rather spontaneously, this turned into a long and vigorous romp that left us both ready for a nap.

Food play was a tougher challenge.  We really didn't know where to go first, so we stuck pretty close to the middle of the road since this was a first time for both of us--whipped cream, peanut butter, chocolate syrup, cherries and Bailey's Irish Cream.  We covered the bed and I laid down first.  She basically made a sundae out of me.  It took a lot of licking and sucking, but it all eventually came off.

But then it was her turn.  The one rule was no food down below, especially since we were using such sugary treats.  So I went with the simple classic: peanut butter on the nipples.  Again, it took a lot of licking and sucking to get it all off, but with an added perk--wifey has extremely sensitive nipples.  She can even have orgasms from breast stimulation only, so the prolonged nipple play had some extraordinary results.  I tried to pour the irish cream down her butt and in the small of her back.  Unfortunately, it ran down her butt into her crotch, which, apparently burns.

After a quick shower, we got after it.  Apparently the pleasant smells and tastes combined with the breast play primed wifey for a monster orgasm after only a few minutes.  She described it as "tantric."  She's had these before, but not for a long time.  I think the biggest part of this was the prolonged foreplay.  I don't know if we'll ever do this again, but it was a fun and successful experiment.

Week 26--Afternoon Sex

Halfway home...

Unfortunately, wifey was out of town for nearly the entire week, so we couldn't make our challenge.  Don't worry...we made it up here.

Week 25--Rabbit Vibrator

"Well, it would do if you weren't around," says wifey as she synopsizes our experience with the third toy of the challenge, our new Wet Wabbit vibrator.  I didn't expect her to be overwhelmed by the experience, because she, frankly, hates the feeling of synthetic materials.  We started off somewhat tentatively with plenty of lube, and she warmed up to it slowly.  We tried using the tip outside on the clit, which she didn't prefer to having it inside.  We learned that you have to be careful with the rabbit ears on the clit...they have a tendency to poke it, which is pretty painful, but its okay if the clit sits in the "V" as its designed.

And then there's the vibration settings.  It has several speed settings for the vibrator (located near the rabbit ears) and it also has another motor that causes the shaft and the tip to rotate while inside her.  When I switched that on, she immediately started laughing because it was such a strange sensation, though not a particularly arousing one.

I found this to be a strange dynamic.  I've never used a dildo or vibrator on a woman and it felt surprisingly awkward to me.  It felt a bit unnatural...almost like I'm not really participating, which I didn't particularly like.  However, I think that would have been a non-issue if she was really into it.  As it were, it was just a "so-so" type of experience.

Sure I would have liked for her to really love it, but, in all honesty, "it would do if you weren't around," is a nice ego stroke for me...

Week 24--Vibrating cock ring

So we have two challenges this week.  The scheduled challenge involves our second toy: the vibrating cock ring.  Also, we have a make up from last week: pictures.

Wifey wasn't thrilled with the idea of taking nude pictures, being more than a little self conscious.  I even told her that if she was too stressed about it that we shouldn't do it.  But like the trooper she is, she insisted and we took a handful of hot BJ pictures that, I have to say, I've looked at several times since.  Since, she's been less worried about it than I thought.  She insisted that I deleted only one picture that she found particularly unflattering, but on the whole she was pretty happy with how they came out and hasn't had any issues since.

One of the pictures included me proudly wearing our new vibrating cock ring.  Now, I always thought of CRs as tools for people that had problems staying hard, but we found this vibrating thing that seemed like it would turn my wang into a vibrator.  I'm not a giant, but I'm a little bigger than average, so my chief concern was that it was going to pinch off my man-sausage.  It looked small and came in a shady looking foil package with warnings about not wearing it for more than 30 minutes at a time, but when I took it out it was pretty soft and stretchable and, surprisingly, comfortable.  It has 2 vibrating motors, one on top and one on the bottom.  Wifey insisted that we operate the top one at first.  In missionary, it was positioned perfectly to stimulate her clit.  After we got going, she told me to turn on the bottom one, which was perfectly placed to provide some anal stimulation.  I bet that would work great with a butt plug...  Anyway, with both motors blasting away, she came...longer and harder than she usually does in a new situation.

Both challenges get thumbs up.  I loved taking pictures of her, although it's a little disruptive to the flow of sex, if you keep it fun and playful, it's great.  Beyond that, there's something awesome about being able to see naked pictures of your wife whenever and wherever you want.  I was skeptical of the CR, but I think we found it both to be a positive experience.  The vibration didn't to much for me personally, but I love to try new stuff and get her off. 

Week 23--Pictures

Well, after nearly half a year, it finally happened: we didn't meet our challenge this week.  Shocking that it hasn't happened sooner, but we made up for it here.

Week 22--Cuddling

"Cuddling?  What do you mean?  What are we supposed to do...not have sex?"  Okay...so wifey wasn't completely sold on this one.  On the other, I was rather looking forward to it.  It didn't necessarily mean that we couldn't have sex, but we should make an effort to carve out some cuddle time before during or after sex.  She felt better about that.

Wifey and I are a very physically affectionate couple.  Ever since we first got together we've been very generous with touching, both in sexual and non-sexual way (even though it usually gets sexual pretty quickly sometimes) and we continue to do so.  I have very fond memories of laying around on the couch all day on spring Saturdays cuddling and watching TV, which is why I was looking forward to it. 

So...on with it.  After a nighttime romp, we laid down to spoon...my arm under her head.  As we always do.  Then we immediately fell asleep.  As we always do.

Week 21--Lingerie

I'm not, nor have I ever been, a lingerie guy.  I believe that the naked female body needs no adornment.  There's nothing that hotter than nudity.  But, as time has gone on, I've been more open to it.  And this is the challenge part--opening myself up and learning to appreciate lingerie.  Wifey doesn't have a lot...she got rid of a lot of it when we got together because she knew that it wasn't my thing.  But there's a little bit left in her arsenal to play with, including one that she got as a gift when we got married.  With the kids lurking about, things moved to the privacy of the bedroom rather quickly, where she changed into her sexy white camisole.

I tried.  I really did, but it just does nothing for me.  I tried to understand why anyone would prefer a beautiful woman in lingerie than naked.  It's like putting ketchup on Kobe beef...I want to get my hands (and lips...and tongue...and...) on all of those delicious lady bits.   After a long and sort of silly discussion about it, I put my mouth on all of those delicious lady bits.  We had really, really great sex, but I couldn't help but be annoyed that her boobs were covered up when I went to suck on them at times.  I will admit, she looked sexier in doggy than I would have anticipated and it was kind of fun (in a porn star sort of way) to pull her boobs up out of her top.

But still, not my thing.  I love that she wears cute and somewhat revealing pajamas around the house to the extent she can around pre-teen kids (short shorts, low-cut shirts).  But that's what "lingerie" is about to me--sexy little things that turn me on when we're not having sex.  Things that make me anticipate sex.  When the lights go off, everything comes off.  The time for anticipation is over.

Week 20--All About Her

"All about her" isn't as easy as you'd necessarily think.  She is very vocal that I'm a generous lover (I try really hard to be), so I have to figure out how to step it up.  There are nights that I do more than others and I definitely have my bag of tricks, but I was a little worried that it wouldn't be enough to meet lofty expectations.

We started off with some nice, long oral...with plenty of fingers involved.  Cuz mama likes that.  After two or three good orgasms, we started having sex, but I made it a point to be a little more attentive with kisses and touching.  And some tricks.  The results were orgasm after orgasm, even considering that she's had trouble reaching O from certain positions.

All in all, she says mission accomplished.  And if she's happy, I'm happy.

Week 19--Rough Sex

I've known since we've been together that wifey loves being handled roughly...being held down, having her hair pulled and having her ass smacked is a huge turn on for her.  Under normal circumstances, I suppose I could be described as "assertive" in bed--I tend to be pretty loving, but I'm still assertive about moving her around, putting her where I want her and holding her there.  She likes it.  When I'm drunk, I get "aggressive"--I hold her down, fuck her hard and, generally, man-handle her.  She loves it.  What I generally don't do is hit her or pull her hair.  There's something inside of my head that stops me from causing her pain, even though that gets her off.  So this challenge was really for me to see if I could shake those inhibitions.

I know that I'm a lot more sexually aggressive and rougher when I'm drunk, so, as luck would have it, we got down to business after dinner and (quite a) few drinks with some friends, so I had a little buzz on.  We showered, went up stairs and started fooling around.  I started off as my usual "assertive" self, but with a little prompting from wifey and quite a lot of conscious effort, I started smacking her ass.  Later on, I added in a bit of surprisingly spontaneous hair pulling, which she seemed to enjoy.

We've been here, done this before.  I don't have anything against being rough, but it's just not me for some reason.  It really seems unnatural and forced when I try to do it and I get the sense that the execution leaves a little bit to be desired.  All in all, I'm never really "into it," but we'll see how things go if/when it happens again.

Week 18--Erotic Literature

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Week 17--Morning Sex

This should be so easy.  But it wasn't.  We've had morning sex countless times, so why is this so elusive?  Well, as always, the big problem is our busy lives and hard jobs.  This week, there hasn't been a day when at least one of us has had to work.  On Thursday, wifey woke me up early to have sex, but I was so worn out from the week, that I was too out of it and she gave up, sadly, before I had a chance to wake up.  We went back and forth several times this week about when and, even, if we'd complete the challenge. 

Wifey loves, and I mean loves, morning sex.  Me?  Not quite as much.  Don't get me wrong, I'm down for a good, sweaty grunt just about any time, but I have some trouble getting going in the morning most times, so a morning romp works best for me on the weekends. Also, my orgasms aren't quite as strong in the AM as they are later in the day.  But still, there's something about rolling over and sticking it in that's just awesome.

After going 16 for 16, we couldn't let things fall by the wayside, so we got up early on Friday morning and had at it.  It was a predictably quick romp...about 15-20 minutes. Then off to work...unfortunately.  We both agree that, while it's nice to get your work day started by getting off, morning sex is better when it's a leisurely endeavor...like on a weekend.

Still...17 for 17...

Week 16--All About Him

All about me.  One would think that this is the one that I'd be looking forward to more than anything, but, actually I was a little hesitant.  I consider myself a pretty generous lover.  Me (and my orgasms) are simple...with the exception of a few things that heighten my pleasure, I'm basically a one trick pony.  Light pressure, long and slow strokes and things are about as good as they get.  Now throw in an engaging partner who's obviously enjoying herself and I enjoy myself a lot more.  Hence the quandry of the "All About Him" challenge: to really make it all about me, it would have to be mostly about her. 

Now, with that said, I have an incredibly generous partner.  Wifey loves to take care of her man, so she likes challenges like this.  And, as our time together goes on, I'm getting better at laying back and being "serviced."  At regular intervals.  So, after a long, agonizing Saturday at work, I came home to the wife and kids.  I went upstairs to change while I told wifey about my day...yadda, yadda, yadda.  Then, BAM! Surprise, quickie, doggie sex.  Only 5 or 10 minutes, but it was awesome.  It takes a lot psychologically for me to finish before her, but, hey, it's all about me, right?  Later on, at bedtime, I got a nice, long BJ to send me off to sleep.

Okay, so all about me wasn't so bad.  

Week 15--Middle-of-the-Night Sex

We actually drew a different challenge this week, but this one just kind of materialized.  Although, it's out of order, it's the type of challenge that's really hard to do on command, but, when it happens at the right time, it's an awesome sexual experience.  So, with those issues in mind, we agreed to write about our night and redraw for next week.

Exhausted from a hellish week at work, we went to bed early on Friday...like old folks.  Consequently, we got up pretty early on Saturday feeling refreshed and rested...rested enough for a spontaneous morning roll in the hay.  After a quick breakfast and some homemade Bloody Marys, we were off to a family event that took half the day, but afterward, we were rewarded with a date at our favorite blues club.  After dinner, a couple of drinks and some good music, we headed home for the night.  She was a little drunk and sleepy on the way home, so when we got in, we showered and hit the sack for some sleep at about 1:30 am.  I awoke at about 2:30 am to her kissing me out of nowhere.  I was disoriented, but quickly woke up enough to roll over and jump on top.  After a quick romp, we rolled over and went to sleep.

This is interesting because the roles are usually reversed.  I've become known for initiating sex while I'm asleep when I've had a lot to drink.  I can't remember an instance recently that she's done that.  It was fun and surprising and, since I'd had a couple of drinks, too, I was a little more sexually aggressive.

Week 14--No mouth or hands

So far we've done Mouth Only in week 4 and Hands Only in week 8.  Naturally, we need a night where neither mouth nor hands can be used.  At least on genitals.  Although simply by random chance, it worked out rather poetically having them occur in this order.  Going in, I was thinking that it was going to be just a regular old roll in the hay sans the foreplay.  Seems kinda boring.  But recently, and very strangely, wifey has been finding it difficult to cum in positions other than doggy.  So that got me thinking about what tricks we'd have to employ to get her off without using hands or mouths on her lady bits.

After a little bit of kissing, we reached for the lube.  It seemed like an abrupt beginning, but we quickly got worked up.  Somewhere in there, while in missionary, I reached around and started playing with her rear.  She quickly came and came again before I finished.  Did I cheat?  Technically, no, because my hands never touched her genitals.  Okay, maybe.

In any event, it was a quick romp...the whole event took about 20 minutes...and we only did one position--missionary.  But it was very satisfying for both of us...probably because we hadn't had sex in nearly a week. I was surprised (pleasantly) that she was able to get so aroused and orgasm from missionary without additional stimulation.  For my part, I did do my best to use my hips to keep pressure on her clit, so that may have helped a little.  So everybody wins and then gets great sleep.

Week 13--Bondage

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Week 12--Foreplay

Neither of us have any idea what we were envisioning when we thought up this challenge.  We've been pretty good about the weeks not getting away from us, but not so this time.  We didn't really have a good idea and it was late Saturday night, so I set about the task of performing fellatio on wifey.  It was a little longer and I reached a little deeper into the bag of tricks and gave her a couple of good orgasms before we moved on to some really good sex.  Emphasis on foreplay?  Check.  Mission accomplished.

Now on to the bigger story...

We've been continuing on down the path of anal over the last several weeks and, finally this week, we had full, penetrative anal sex.  It started and proceeded like any other sex, until she uttered words that she's never said before: "Touch my butt."  Wait...what?  Okay, so I start touching her butt.  And her clit.  While having vaginal sex.  It was sort of like juggling.  Eventually we switched to doggy and proceeded with our usual anal fingering with her touching herself.  During this, she had a series of intense orgasms and surprised me afterwards by saying, "try to get your tip in."  To which I replied, "you're not ready."  She was still a little tense, so we continued having sex and stimulating her until she relaxed more.

At this point, I had a good feeling about things, so I took a minor risk.  I stopped to put on a condom, halfway expecting this to go well.  I heaped on the lube and started feeling around, but her butt was locked down and tense.  Then I started kissing and rubbing her back and something magical happened.  She relaxed her muscles and I started sliding in slowly.  Don't mess this up.  Still half amazed, I slid in slowly waiting for her to tell me to stop.  Until I bottomed out with my hips hitting her butt.  Determined to not mess this up, I stayed perfectly still and kissed her back while she, basically, got herself off with me in her ass.  But I was shocked when she started rocking back against me as she approached orgasm.  After she came, she freaked out a little bit, wanting me to get out.  I took a minute to calm her down and pulled out slowly before I removed the condom, washed up and finished having vaginal sex.  Afterward, she said she had no pain, and it felt good, but she had a more intense orgasm during the fingering.

Several things amazed me here: first, she asked me to touch her rear.  Second, she assumed conscious control of her anal muscles.  Third, we were able to get me completely in on the first try.  And, finally, she was getting surprisingly into it by moving back and forth against me.  After a quick debrief and a high-five, we went and got lunch.

Week 11--Twice-a-day

This challenge hearkens back to those courting days when we couldn't get enough of each other.  When we hung out and had nothing to do because we cleared out our (then separate) lives or a night or a week or a weekend...either in town or off on a trip.  We had the time and the ease of mind to wake up to morning sex or have sex at some random time in the middle of the day and still had the time, energy and desire to do it again later that night.

We have just spent the last 2 days in a bar watching basketball, as we do this time every year.  After all that beer, we're ready to relax and spend a couple of days kicking back relaxing.  With the kids out of town, we had that opportunity.  I expected to wake up to morning sex this morning, but she was up and out before me.  We both got up and had coffee, then went back to bed before the games tipped (what a woman!) for an energetic romp.

After a long day of watching basketball, we got an invitation to go out with some friends, which we did.  We had a good time, but the downside is that we were pretty tired from our long weekend.  When we got home after a few drinks we were more worn down than turned on.  Even though we got home late (technically on Sunday morning, but who's counting), we ran through the finish line and had a quick, but satisfying roll in the hay.

Week 10--Kama Sutra Positions

One of my favorite things about our sex life is that we play in so many positions.  Sure, we have 4 or 5 "go to" positions that we use every week, but we frequently, and quite spontaneously, end up in some fun positions.  Even better, we move between them smoothly and with ease so we can have a little more fun without it being cumbersome.  So, when I drew our card this week, wifey's first though was, "what were we thinking when we put that in?"  Not in a bad way, but in a we-already-do-all-this way. 

I started my research earlier this week and soon discovered that we really do most of this stuff.  We've at least dabbled in most of the easy- to moderate-difficulty positions.  Since the spirit of the challenge is to try new stuff, I checked out a couple of good sites that were illustrated (like Jija Sali) looking for a few advanced moves to try.  I did some more extensive research than that, but I found this site to be the most concise and easy to navigate site and all of the things we tried were from here.

Okay, so here we are.  Saturday night after a few drinks and its time to fool around.  After some foreplay to get things going, she hops on top to get everything going.  After only 2-3 minutes, I was surprised to hear her say, "okay, what are we doing first?"  I had a few things in mind, but didn't really have a specific order.  Since she was on top, I naturally went for the girl-on-top positions.  We had played with "The Lotus" and "The Fusion" in the past and played a bit in those.  The former leads beautifully into the latter and they're really good for deep penetration and slow, sensual thrusting with her in control.  The down side of "The Fusion" is that you can't touch her as much because your hands are occupied holding your own weight.  At this point, its time to go big.  We get on the floor and attempt to get into "The Amazon" position.  We got there, but it didn't seem quite right...pretty uncomfortable for me and a little stressful on wifey's long, LONG legs.  We abandoned that one pretty quickly.

After that experiment, we took an orgasm break--back to some good ol' fashioned, doggystyle shaggin' until she came.  From there, with me standing and her face down on the bed, I picked her up by the thighs as we went for "The Wheelbarrow."  After the laughter subsided, it felt pretty good, but it turned out to be a lot of awkward stress on her lower back, so we abandoned that one pretty quickly as well.  She hopped back into the center of the bed and went went for the coup d' grace: "The Mill Vanes."  Unlike the last, this one was not uncomfortable for me, but it requires the penis to angle downward, which could be uncomfortable for some guys.  She felt the pressure of my penis pushing on her vaginal-rectal wall and I felt the pressure on the top (read: less sensitive part) of my penis.  I'm of slightly above-average length, but despite that, it was easy for it to slip out.  Yep...had enough of that, too.  We were actually relieved to be done with these positions and get back to what we know and love.  They were pretty uncomfortable, and we were happy to finish up in "The Put Under One," aka, "Reverse Cowgirl." 

The difficulty was pretty up there, but we managed to get into all of them, even if we didn't sustain it.  With the exception of "The Wheelbarrow," none were painful, but the level and/or type of stimulus just didn't do anything for us.  So we'll just limit the difficulty and keep doing what we're doing.

Week 9--Anal

Oh, the mother of all sex challenges.  This is the challenge that scares wifey the most.  Not because she believes that it's evil, but because she's got a hang up about her butt hole.  We've got some history here as well.  When we were first dating, we tried it when we were on a trip.  We went out and had a fun night, got really drunk and came back to the hotel for a sex marathon.  We had sex twice (yes, it was that early on) and sometime during the second session we (I?) decided that we should try anal.  No preparation.  Lube wasn't an issue because she was really, really wet, but she wasn't mentally prepared for it and was, honestly, a little traumatized by it.

Fast forward 7 or 8 years--I'm a much wiser man and she's much more open minded.  I made no secret that this should be part of our sex challenge and she was skeptical.  I insisted not because I physically enjoyed anal sex (vaginal sex actually feels better to me), but because I think that if she opens her mind to it, it can be the gateway to a whole new level of orgasm for her.  Over the last 3 months, I've been talking anal a lot.  I bought her a butt plug.  She thinks I'm "anal obsessed."  But it wasn't until I touched her butt during an orgasm one night that her curiosity started to pique.  To my (and probably her) surprise, she started letting me finger her butt during sex...and she enjoyed it.  Before our vacation a couple of weeks ago, she told me that the most intense orgasms she has is in doggy style while she rubs her clit...with a finger in her ass!  What?!  While on vacation we took it to the next level.  We were having drunk sex one night and I secretly slipped a second finger in while in reverse cowgirl.  She came really hard, but didn't know that I had inserted a second finger.  This game turned into "just the tip" as we continue to dabble in anal play working up to being ready to meet this challenge, whenever it would occur.  She was even able to cum from just my fingers in her ass.

What I've just described is the most critical step in anal sex: the lead in.  In my opinion, preparing her physically is overstated, although its important to take your time and make sure she's physically able to accommodate you.  The process of preparing her mentally is really what its all about because when she's relaxed and comfortable, she's going to receive you without pain if you've done any anal play.  What it's all about for us is what it's all about for most people: trust.  Anal sex is about her trusting you to take her outside of her comfort zone, to spend time giving her proper attention to prepare her and to do something that can either hurt her or give her intense pleasure.  Once she trusts you, she relaxes and the doorway to pleasure is open.

So we planned for Saturday night--empty house, nice dinner, a few drinks.  We went upstairs later than anticipated.  We lit some candles (as much for light as for mood) and put on some music.  After a little 69, we started having vaginal sex with a little anal diddling.  But things just weren't right for some reason.  She was tense and thinking about it.  Nothing was relaxed and she was very on edge.  We played with the smallest butt plug for a little while, which yielded a pretty big orgasm, but it quickly became clear that going beyond that was not going to happen.

So Saturday came and went without an attempt.  We talked a little bit the next day and all she could say was that it "wasn't right."  The pressure of a time deadline was too much to allow her to relax.  We both want to try again, but we agree that its best to just let it happen, as it has been over the last couple of weeks.  As far as the challenge goes, we skate by on a technicality.  During our game of "just the tip," I was about 1/3 inside her ass and she got off, so I think that counts.  Without the pressure, things will get easier.

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Week 8--Hands Only

After our (relative) sex-a-thon on vacation last week, the battle to snatch our sex life from the jaws of work and family life continues in earnest. The agony of coming back is almost enough to make you regret going...almost. Unfortunately, mother nature rears her ugly head to ruin a week of sex and sap our anniversary momentum. The randomly selected challenge was impossible, given the biological circumstances. After a few redraws, we decide to cherry-pick the next challenge: hands only. I've never had a properly lubricated hand job to completion (high school sandpaper jerks notwithstanding), so I'm interested to see how it compares to my wife's stellar oral work.

At  the end of another long, tiring day, I was under the impression that we were going to sleep, but wifey had other ideas.  After a liberal application of lubricant she proceeded to use her expert hands.  This was clearly not your high school sandpaper jerk.  I expected it to feel like a blow job without the mouth, but it really didn't.  She used her hands differently applying firmer pressure and paying more attention to the shaft.  Less stimulation to the tip, which, for me, is very sensitive, allowed me to move steadily toward orgasm without feeling like I was hurtling out of control toward it.  Her hands operated just as expertly, as evidenced by the explosive orgasm with high-arcing ejaculation.  What made this even more fun for me was how much fun she was having during this little game.  Smiles and the occasional giggle made this a very playful environment.

My hands are not nearly as skilled as hers and her buttons need to be pushed in a much more specific sequence than mine, but I insisted on reciprocating.  I've gotten her off with manual stimulation before, but this time she seemed much more willing to instruct me on the button pushing.  This can be off-putting to some guys, but I liked having subtle things whispered in my ear (not having instructions barked at me).  The result was a surprisingly strong orgasm for manual stimulation only.  I suspect that the intensity had a lot to do with her being turned on from a new experience which, of course, is what this is all about.

I think we had more fun and learned a lot more than I thought we would from something that seemed so basic.  It was really fun and playful and would make a nice change up from what we're used to.  Would definitely do again.

Week 7--Drunk Sex

It was only a matter of time before we ran into problems with the random assignment of challenges.  Our anniversary was this past weekend and we forgot our toy box as we left on a mini-vacation, so this week's challenge was not possible.  We did, however, imbibe.  Plenty.  So drunk sex happened.  Repeatedly.  Which happens to be one of our challenges that we had to re-shuffle early in the challenge, so we made a little substitute on-the-fly and used drunk sex as this week's challenge.  When we were wild and crazy, we partied a lot and had a lot of drunk sex, so its fun and wild, but still relatively in the box for us.  It only happens infrequently nowadays, so its liberating to have no worries and come home from the bar late and have some wild sex.  And we did. 

There were really 2 nights on vacation when we came home after looooooong days of drinking.  It was nice to see that we can still drink for 10-12 hours at a time and still be up for a roll in the hay like young pups.  Both nights, we came back late and had some good, long sex.  There's something about alcohol that holds you in the moment like nothing else.  Sex is never a chore for us, but without the pressures of kids, work and home life and with a little "liquid encouragement," both of us felt more relaxed and playful and, instead of the typical, married "hurry-it-along" sex, we really got to take our time and enjoy each other.

There was a little kink, too.  I have a reputation for getting a little...um...aggressive sexually when I've been drinking.  My new fixation has been with her anus.  She's recently, somewhat reluctantly, given in to her curiosity about anal sex and she's been rewarded with some earth-shattering orgasms.  So we continued to explore a little anal play with predictably sensational results.  :D

The conclusion here was foregone: we love drunk sex.  As long as nobody is completely out of control, alcohol has a wonderful way relaxing, stimulating and dis-inhibiting you; holding you in the moment and generally enhancing the sexual experience.  We don't have it often enough, but drunk sex loses its uninhibited charm if it's a once-a-week occurrence. 

Week 6--Washing Machine Sex

I did a lot of reading for this challenge.  One of the things that I've never thought of that kept popping up over and over was sex on the washing machine.  The theory is that vibrations from the spin cycle are transferred into...um...your groin, making the penis a fleshy vibrator.  o_O Seemed worth a try to me.  Unfortunately, the only night this week that was a reasonable opportunity for this challenge was a stressful night preceded by a long and stressful day.  It was to the point that I thought we would have to redraw, but, in the true spirit of the challenge, we made it happen.

There was a lot more to think about than I thought when I envisioned this, so I did some reading and learned that the "best" positions were: girl-on-top (lotus style), girl on the washer with guy on the floor and doggystyle (bent over the washer).  It was a little tricky because 1) we have a top-load washer and 2) the washer is about 2 inches too high for me (or I'm 2 inches too short for the washer). All relatively minor problems...

We threw some laundry in and got started.  I hopped up on the washer and she got things started by giving me some of that patented oral.  She was kneeling on a nearby stool and found the angle perfect to make me...accessible, which was nice.  After a few minutes, we reversed roles--she hopped up on the washer just as the rinse cycle came on.  While the height was perfect for her giving me oral, I had some more trouble with finding the right height to reach her.  After about 10 minutes, we hit the spin cycle.  Here we go!  Okay...it wasn't exactly what I read about.  It was good, but neither of us felt the vibrations from the washing machine in our genitals.  After about 15 minutes of fidgeting and adjusting, trying to find the right position and angle, she hopped down and we finished doggystyle over the washing machine after the cycle ended.

All in all, we both had fun.  The night didn't exactly start off perfectly, but we ended up making the most of it.  There were challenges: it was cold, the washer was a shade too tall and the positions were pretty uncomfortable.  There's also a basement window in the laundry room from our back yard, so the thought of being watched was sort of distracting for her.  On the up side, we like using different objects as obstacles, comfort be damned.  Also, the novelty of the act was sort of fun.  All in all, probably not something that we'd do again, but it was a fun experience.

Week 5--We Vibe

After a series of challenges that were a bit...underwhelming (even if the sex was good), we were really looking for something to get fired up about.  As the sex gods would have it, the next card was a 4 of hearts, which was our "mutual toy" challenge.  We had stocked up on a few key toys for the challenge over the Christmas holiday and were really excited to try out our We Vibe II.  She was as excited as she's been at any point in the challenge, looking forward and counting down to our first opportunity to try this thing out.

We had played with it out of the box when we first got it, so we were somewhat familiar with how to use it.  Now, fully charged up, we were ready to play.  She sometimes has trouble getting her mind wrapped around new sexual experiences, so I started off giving her a little oral and then we started penetrative sex like we normally do to get her relaxed.  But I quickly realized that there's no smooth way to work something so oddly shaped into sex play.  At least no way I knew.  So, rather inelegantly, I stopped what I was doing to grab the thingy and the lube and started figuring it out how to make it happen.

Immediately, I sensed her tense up a little bit in nervous anticipation, which I was hoping to avoid.  The first pitfall was the shape and texture of the toy itself.  Its obviously built very specifically, but that shape doesn't make it terribly easy to handle.  Its a silicone toy, so plenty of water-based lube is a MUST for comfortable--ahem--operation.  But unfortunately silicone + lube + awkward shape = fumble.  After finding the handle, we turned it on and found a setting we liked.  I inserted the little end into my (at this point, downright jumpy) wife, who started cackling with laughter.  Apparently it tickles a little bit.  The larger end that houses the vibrator and control button rests against the pubic bone and stimulates the clitoris.  At this point, second thing we learned was that it's impossible to use too much lube.  If the external part isn't slick, it can play tug-of-war with pubic hair.  More lube to the rescue.  After a few seconds for her to get used to what she was feeling, I slowly inserted myself, not sure what to expect.  I guess I expected it to be tighter, almost uncomfortable, but it felt smaller than it looks.  To be honest, I would describe the feeling as a vagina with a plastic ceiling.  There's no friction on the top, but the vibration I felt was surprisingly intense even though the vibrator is physically outside of her body.

As we gain some momentum, the giggling stops and the heavy breathing starts.  I've read from others' reviews that missionary is the "best" position when using the We Vibe.  In another moment of learning, it became apparent that the We Vibe becomes a hard obstruction against the pubic bone if its not inserted far enough to move the external part down off the pubic bone.  The problem that we ran into was that when it was in deep enough to be comfortable, it didn't adequately stimulate the clitoris and there was constant adjustment to keep the external part in position during missionary.  We changed positions a few times--from missionary, she rolled onto her side, then into doggystyle, then to cowgirl.  All of the positions seemed, for the most part, the same; the best position for us was her on her stomach with me entering from behind.  In that position, she could use the bed to hold the toy in place over her clitoris and we ended up in that position twice during the hour or so that we used the toy.

But in that hour, she wasn't able to reach orgasm, ONE TIME, which is extremely unusual.  Even in the positions with the greatest stimulation, she seemed to enjoy it, but couldn't get over the top.  I think the major reason was in between her ears--there was a lot of tension and even more thinking that needed to be done to figure out the most comfortable and best positions.  Secondly, she felt like she couldn't "feel me" as well and the flesh-on-flesh friction was decreased significantly.  Even after we took the toy out of the equation, she couldn't orgasm because she felt a little sore. 

After all of that, we learned some important lessons.  It's shaped funny...got it.  Lots of lube...check.  Watch the pubic bone trauma...piece of cake.  Best positions...noted.  We consider it a successful challenge, but we plan on having another go with some more knowledge and more comfort with the toy so we can just relax and have fun.

Week 4--Mouth Only

This was more than an opportunity to say "ah." I envisioned our "mouth only" session as an opportunity to prolong oral and focus on giving. No penetration. Less pressure from not using hands = longer than normal playtime capped off with an orgasm. Besides, she almost always cums when I give her oral and I'm good for an automatic orgasm.

We did all of that and it was what we thought it would be...almost.  We came upstairs after a long day.  I worked and she spent all day (literally) running our daughter to her extra-curricular activities.  Both of us starting off exhausted didn't bode well, but I laid her down and started going down on her.  I used my hands to enjoy the rest of her body, but only mouth down below. After 20 minutes of teasing, kissing, licking and sucking, she's close, but cant get over the top and wasn't going to.  So I resort to using my fingers along with my tongue and give her a long, but somewhat relaxed orgasm.  The problem is that clitoral orgasms for her are an appetizer--she's just not satisfied, even with me manually stimulating her G-spot with a finger (cheating, I know).

Then it was my turn.  I sat on the bed and she laid on her stomach and began a long process of kissing, licking, tongue flicking and sucking.  As great as she is at giving blowjobs--and she is great!--she owes a lot of her proficiency to generous and expert use of her hands.  The reproducible result is a mind-blowing, out-of-body orgasm.  But I've never had a problem reaching orgasm and shouldn't tonight, even if it takes a little extra mouth work.  After another 15 or 20 minutes or so, I realize I'm wrong.  I'm there, but like her, I can't get over.  And like me, she cheats and uses her hands...to my benefit.

All in all, this wasn't a fan favorite.  The point was for some prolonged foreplay, which we both had and enjoyed.  Eventually, that relaxation and build up gives way to frustration.  If we learned anything, we learned that mouths are nice, but hands are important.

Week 3--Stairs

When I put "sex on the stairs" in as a challenge, I really didn't know what to expect. The stairs are an unnerving mix of angles and flatness that sort of boggle the sexual mind. At least THIS sexual mind. I stared at them in the nude, hoping for inspiration, but instead of opportunity, I only see discomfort.

But the cardinal rule of this challenge is to be open minded, so we were. Missionary seemed unlikely, so we started off with her giving me some surprisingly amazing oral. All I can think of is that the angles were right. When she tried to climb on top, things went downhill. It was awkward and uncomfortable, bordering on dangerous. With this barely working, I pulled her down a few steps, pulled up her robe (it was cold) and slid in from behind as she used the bannister for support. Eventually, she ended up on her knees with me working up a nice rhythm from behind, at the expense of her knees. I finished quicker than I could have because it was getting really uncomfortable for her.

One of the awesome things about this challenge is that we will find some things that we are going to incorporate into our sex life. This won't be one of them.

Week 2--Living room

Ten of hearts--living room sex.  We put a few of these challenges in to get us out of the bedroom.  We've had sex in multiple rooms in the house, including one living room, many times before.  But not in a while and not in the other living room.  That's opportunity knocking.  We have one hesitation.  When can we do this when the kids aren't around?  It's time to be opportunistic.

The sex gods presented us with an empty house on Wednesday.  That's right, no waiting for the last minute on this one.  The challenge here was fighting the mid-week exhaustion that seems to plague me.  But a quick change of mental gears (and a little of wifey's mind-blowing oral) and I'm in the game.  After some nice oral in her favorite chair, followed by some reverse cowgirl action.  Then doggie on the floor, some cowgirl on the couch, missionary on the couch and finishing up on the floor with a simultaneous doggystyle orgasms.

There wasn't anything crazy about this challenge, except the fact that we've somehow managed to never have sex in this particular room.  I don't think it was particularly exhilarating, beyond normal out-of-the-bedroom sex, but I did think it was fun having new furniture to "play" on.  We're really good a changing position frequently without interrupting the flow of sex, and the whole "use the house as a jungle gym" thing suits us well.

Week 1--Blindfolds

We came up with a fun and playful way to randomly pick our weekly challenge.  Fifty-two weeks in a year.  Fifty-two challenges.  Fifty-two cards in a deck.  Coincidence?  I got out an old deck of cards, counted them, shuffled them and put them on our dresser in the bedroom.  Every week we'll draw a new card.  This week: 7 of clubs--blindfolds.

Wifey was a little nervous drawing the first card.  "I hope we don't have to start with anything really hard," she says.  But, boy, was she excited about blindfolds.  She's a very sensitive person, so the sensations that come with sex and physical intimacy are exaggerated for her.  Taking away sight, even for a short time, heightens your other senses even further and produces a sense of anticipation that really gets her going.  Me?  I'm not as excited about this one.  I think it can be fun, but I really like to look at her naked body.  Not having one, we jumped on line and ordered one up as part of a light bondage kit and some other toys and aids.   

As life would have it, we completely lost the sexual momentum that we gained over the holidays, and we got pushed back to the last possible minute: 10pm Saturday night. We went upstairs and I put on our new blindfold, which was a piece of crap.  So we got a scarf out and I tied it around her eyes, pushed her down on the bed, took off her clothes and told her to wait there.  After doing some reading earlier, I decided to go with alternating hot/cold beverages during cunnilingus.  She really enjoyed it and was constantly wondering what I was touching her with.  After she came a couple of times, she gave me a little oral and we proceeded with penetrative sex with her blindfold still on.  We started with doggystyle and proceded to, as we typically do, flow into multiple positions, one after the other.  After she had a couple more orgasms, I finished. 

Afterward, we talked about the experience.  First, we agree that it's a tough challenge to start with because its usually combined with other stuff.  With 51 other challenges, it was tough to figure out what to do without using something that's the focus of an upcoming challenge.  The oral part was really good for her, but I think what it did was make me focus on giving her oral and prolonging and intensifying the experience for her instead of rushing through it to get to sex.  I used more fingers along with my tongue and the added dimension of temperature was exciting.  Also not having her vision was exciting for her because 1) it created anticipation and 2) she was completely disoriented to where we were on the bed.

So, all in all, it was a good experience.  We felt a lot of pressure to get it done in time, especially the first one.  God help us if we fail the first challenge.  But we did and it was a success.  It was definately something that we'd be willing to try again.