Week 49--Seven Days in a Row

Wifey was apprehensive about anal.  That, above all of our potential challenges was the one that worried her the most.  Anal is a turn on for me, so I had no such worry.  But when I looked down the list of challenges this time last year "seven days in a row" was the one that worried me.

Thinking back, I can't ever remember having sex for more than 5 or 6 days in a row, even at our peak.  Seven doesn't seem like that much of a stretch, but when you're older and have a busy life with kids, we rarely exceed 3 days in a row.  Also, the notion of having to have sex saps a little of the enthusiasm for us because it adds a sense of pressure.  To top things off, wifey had run into some health problems and we've been using condoms, which makes it really difficult for me to get off unless I'm really turned on.  This is a problem even though they're thin and fit well--by far the best condom's we've ever used.  The biggest thing for me is that its hard for me to get really turned on without the build-up between sessions.

But shaking these issues is what this challenge is all about.  Besides, it's only been a couple of weeks since wifey was out of commission sexually.  That was basically two weeks without sex, at which point I was bursting with horniness.  Since, we've been back on the bandwagon enjoying normal, fun, spontaneous, sometimes intense sex.  I focused on that time when we couldn't have sex and felt thankful for, rather than lamenting, the have-to sex situation.  It worked...at first.

The first two days were fine.  We had our normal, great sex.  Day three, we had some good afternoon sex before heading to a family get-together.  I had a few drinks and some good food, and developed a scratchy throat, which I thought was just from dry air and talking too much.  But, alas, days 4 and 5 it blossomed into a full-blown cold.  I was tired and sick and wifey was starting to feel like having sex was a chore.  Worse, it was getting more difficult for me to achieve and maintain an erection because I just wasn't into it and it was hard work for me to get off because I was wearing a condom.  But we soldiered on, having some admittedly uninspired sex.  Day 6, we had sex in the basement just as a change of scenery.  Day 7, we rejoyced...then had sex.

To be fair, it was an unusually long and busy week from a work and home life standpoint and I was feeling run down from a cold.  This was a difficult challenge for both of us for one simple reason: we don't like feeling like sex is a chore.  We've worked hard to cultivate a relationship rich in sexual openness and the "have-to" mentality seemed like an affront to that.