Week 49--Seven Days in a Row

Wifey was apprehensive about anal.  That, above all of our potential challenges was the one that worried her the most.  Anal is a turn on for me, so I had no such worry.  But when I looked down the list of challenges this time last year "seven days in a row" was the one that worried me.

Thinking back, I can't ever remember having sex for more than 5 or 6 days in a row, even at our peak.  Seven doesn't seem like that much of a stretch, but when you're older and have a busy life with kids, we rarely exceed 3 days in a row.  Also, the notion of having to have sex saps a little of the enthusiasm for us because it adds a sense of pressure.  To top things off, wifey had run into some health problems and we've been using condoms, which makes it really difficult for me to get off unless I'm really turned on.  This is a problem even though they're thin and fit well--by far the best condom's we've ever used.  The biggest thing for me is that its hard for me to get really turned on without the build-up between sessions.

But shaking these issues is what this challenge is all about.  Besides, it's only been a couple of weeks since wifey was out of commission sexually.  That was basically two weeks without sex, at which point I was bursting with horniness.  Since, we've been back on the bandwagon enjoying normal, fun, spontaneous, sometimes intense sex.  I focused on that time when we couldn't have sex and felt thankful for, rather than lamenting, the have-to sex situation.  It worked...at first.

The first two days were fine.  We had our normal, great sex.  Day three, we had some good afternoon sex before heading to a family get-together.  I had a few drinks and some good food, and developed a scratchy throat, which I thought was just from dry air and talking too much.  But, alas, days 4 and 5 it blossomed into a full-blown cold.  I was tired and sick and wifey was starting to feel like having sex was a chore.  Worse, it was getting more difficult for me to achieve and maintain an erection because I just wasn't into it and it was hard work for me to get off because I was wearing a condom.  But we soldiered on, having some admittedly uninspired sex.  Day 6, we had sex in the basement just as a change of scenery.  Day 7, we rejoyced...then had sex.

To be fair, it was an unusually long and busy week from a work and home life standpoint and I was feeling run down from a cold.  This was a difficult challenge for both of us for one simple reason: we don't like feeling like sex is a chore.  We've worked hard to cultivate a relationship rich in sexual openness and the "have-to" mentality seemed like an affront to that.

Week 48--Basement sex

We've had sex in our basement dozens of times.  The biggest problem is that, like a lot of basements, it's pretty chilly, even though it's finished.  Wifey gets cold pretty easily, so getting her to strip down for some nookie in our basement in December is a tall order.

But this time is different, as this night is the maiden voyage for our new fire place.  I got it fired up about 2 hours before we eventually headed downstairs for some playtime.  We spread a blanket out right in front of the fireplace and got down to business.  We started with some good 69, which is one of the things from this challenge which has worked it's way into our regular sex rotation, before getting into our favorite positions.

We always enjoy sex in different rooms.  It's just nice to change the scenery.  With a fireplace downstairs making it comfy and cozy, I have a feeling that this is something that will be happening with more frequency.

Week 47--Ice

I had great designs on this "ice" challenge.  I did some research.  I was creative, damnit.

We'd dabbled a bit with ice in the past.  We'd had a little fun and done the whole "BJ with ice" thing in the past.  It was fun and an interesting sensation, but I found it a little more numbing and less arousing.  This challenge is about new experiences and I thought we needed to try something different.  So a little research gave me the idea of making an ice dildo by filling a condom with water

But here's the problem: wifey will freeze to death at the drop of a hat.  I literally couldn't touch her with it anywhere, so we eventually got impatient and had sex.  Really good sex...just not very icy.

Week 46--Three Times In A Day

Three times in a day.  We've done this before.  Sure...when we were young and randy, but, hey...it's like riding a bike.  Right?  Right.  We're off for the holidays with nothing pressing to do, so it'll just be a little morning-noon-night action.

As usual, she was up earlier than I was and zipped downstairs to have coffee.  Sometime...uh, later...she came up and started to strip down with a happy, "Wake up...it's time to have sex!"  I was awake and naked right away and we jumped in for some morning sex.  I like morning sex, but, for whatever reason, the sensations aren't as intense for me.  Couple that with the fact that we're temporarily using condoms for contraception and you have a guy with relentless stamina early in the morning.

After a day of...well, really doing nothing...we started to get ready to go out and hear some music.  Time for round two.  "NO!"  She exclaimed.  We had a contractor in the house doing some work and she got bashful all of a sudden.  But I was able to talk her into a doggie-style quickie in the bedroom while we were "changing."  Again, with the condoms, I found it hard to get off.  I kept increasing the speed and depth of my strokes to get as much stimulus as possible, which resulted in a barrage of orgasms for her.  Ultimately, though, we pulled off the condom and wifey finished me off by hand.

Fast forward to 1:30 am.  We've been out with friends hearing some great live music.  By this point, it's late, we'd had plenty of sex the last 96 hours and we just wanted to go to bed.  But we're gamers.  Round three.  Okay, so it was a bit less inspired than the last two sessions, but still good.  After doing it twice before and wearing a condom, there was no way I was going to cum.  So once again, wifey's skilled hands to the rescue.

We have had sex three times in a day before when we were young and in lust, so we thought it would be a piece of cake.  But the incremental difficulty between twice and three times in a day was definitely noticeable.

Week 45--Commando

We've been gone for a few days with a medical illness, but we're back...undeterred.  Time to catch up after basically two weeks off.

We had a little unexpected hiatus, but a weekend full of sexy time.  We had a long, intense romp on Friday afternoon before going out to run errands.  This will probably be the warmest day of the waning year, so it's a good time for wifey to go sans panties.  We ran around, made a couple of stops and popped into a cafe  for coffee...all while wifey was nude under her pants.

This was less of a turn on for me than I thought.  I thought that knowing that she was running around without panties would get me wound up, but it really didn't.  Similarly, she didn't feel as sexy as I thought she would.  She was more chilly and self-conscious than anything else.  If we had it to do over again, we would probably wait to have sex until afterwards so we can think about it and get turned on  But, let's face it...nothing beats some spontaneous afternoon sex.

Week 44--Shower sex

We actually completed a challenge early for a change.  You can read about our challenge here.

Week 43--Erotic massage

We actually have a 3-for-1 this week: past, present and future.  We have a make up from last week (pheromones), this week's challenge (erotic massage) and, since wifey is going to be out of commission for next week, a future challenge (shower sex).  This should be interesting...

The first two are an obvious match: we have strawberry-scented pheromone massage oil.  It's basically mineral oil with a fancy scent and...pheromones.  I'm skeptical of the effects of pheromones, but then again, I was skeptical of aphrodisiacs.  I've eaten them twice and I swear that there's a noticeable effect on how sensitive I am and how strong my orgasms are.  So let's keep an open mind.

It was a little chilly, but wifey and I stripped down down for a sensual massage.  She laid on her stomach and I straddled her legs and began to rub her back, neck and shoulders.  Almost immediately, I started to get hard.  I'm not really sure why...there wasn't much stimulation other than visual, but it happened more quickly than I anticipated.  Eventually, my hands started to wander...down to her butt...around to her boobs.  After about 20 minutes, we switched.  For me, the massage was more relaxing than arousing, but after a while, she rolled me over and took me into her mouth.  From there, it was a graceful flow through a number of positions: cowgirl, missionary and culminating in her massive orgasm in doggy.  I held off (barely) and we ran up stairs for our third challenge.

We had a little sample pack of silicone lube that I was saving for anal exploration, but the waterproof nature of it made it perfect for shower sex.  We jumped in and immediately got to some doggy style.  After a couple more orgasms, I finished.  The best part of shower sex is that you don't have to worry about clean up.

I don't really know what to say about pheromones.  Females are supposed to be more sensitive to the effects of pheromones, but she didn't really seem to be any different.  I got an erection surprisingly early in the game, but I was laying on my nude wife, so it's hard to credit the pheromones.  I'm not a believer.  As for the massage, wifey did say, multiple times, "you could do this every week and I'd be happy."  I'm not a huge massage fan, though.  I got way more turned on giving the massage than receiving it.  Shower sex was fun and novel, but cramped.  It would be better if it was a spontaneous thing, but it requires waterproof lube and some prep, which takes away from the fun and makes it just uncomfortable sex.  Most importantly, though, it was an opportunity to have some fun, uninhibited sex.