After our (relative) sex-a-thon on vacation last week, the battle to snatch our sex life from the jaws of work and family life continues in earnest. The agony of coming back is almost enough to make you regret going...almost. Unfortunately, mother nature rears her ugly head to ruin a week of sex and sap our anniversary momentum. The randomly selected challenge was impossible, given the biological circumstances. After a few redraws, we decide to cherry-pick the next challenge: hands only. I've never had a properly lubricated hand job to completion (high school sandpaper jerks notwithstanding), so I'm interested to see how it compares to my wife's stellar oral work.
At the end of another long, tiring day, I was under the impression that we were going to sleep, but wifey had other ideas. After a liberal application of lubricant she proceeded to use her expert hands. This was clearly not your high school sandpaper jerk. I expected it to feel like a blow job without the mouth, but it really didn't. She used her hands differently applying firmer pressure and paying more attention to the shaft. Less stimulation to the tip, which, for me, is very sensitive, allowed me to move steadily toward orgasm without feeling like I was hurtling out of control toward it. Her hands operated just as expertly, as evidenced by the explosive orgasm with high-arcing ejaculation. What made this even more fun for me was how much fun she was having during this little game. Smiles and the occasional giggle made this a very playful environment.
My hands are not nearly as skilled as hers and her buttons need to be pushed in a much more specific sequence than mine, but I insisted on reciprocating. I've gotten her off with manual stimulation before, but this time she seemed much more willing to instruct me on the button pushing. This can be off-putting to some guys, but I liked having subtle things whispered in my ear (not having instructions barked at me). The result was a surprisingly strong orgasm for manual stimulation only. I suspect that the intensity had a lot to do with her being turned on from a new experience which, of course, is what this is all about.
I think we had more fun and learned a lot more than I thought we would from something that seemed so basic. It was really fun and playful and would make a nice change up from what we're used to. Would definitely do again.
Monday, February 28, 2011
Thursday, February 24, 2011
Week 7--Drunk Sex
It was only a matter of time before we ran into problems with the random assignment of challenges. Our anniversary was this past weekend and we forgot our toy box as we left on a mini-vacation, so this week's challenge was not possible. We did, however, imbibe. Plenty. So drunk sex happened. Repeatedly. Which happens to be one of our challenges that we had to re-shuffle early in the challenge, so we made a little substitute on-the-fly and used drunk sex as this week's challenge. When we were wild and crazy, we partied a lot and had a lot of drunk sex, so its fun and wild, but still relatively in the box for us. It only happens infrequently nowadays, so its liberating to have no worries and come home from the bar late and have some wild sex. And we did.
There were really 2 nights on vacation when we came home after looooooong days of drinking. It was nice to see that we can still drink for 10-12 hours at a time and still be up for a roll in the hay like young pups. Both nights, we came back late and had some good, long sex. There's something about alcohol that holds you in the moment like nothing else. Sex is never a chore for us, but without the pressures of kids, work and home life and with a little "liquid encouragement," both of us felt more relaxed and playful and, instead of the typical, married "hurry-it-along" sex, we really got to take our time and enjoy each other.
There was a little kink, too. I have a reputation for getting a little...um...aggressive sexually when I've been drinking. My new fixation has been with her anus. She's recently, somewhat reluctantly, given in to her curiosity about anal sex and she's been rewarded with some earth-shattering orgasms. So we continued to explore a little anal play with predictably sensational results. :D
The conclusion here was foregone: we love drunk sex. As long as nobody is completely out of control, alcohol has a wonderful way relaxing, stimulating and dis-inhibiting you; holding you in the moment and generally enhancing the sexual experience. We don't have it often enough, but drunk sex loses its uninhibited charm if it's a once-a-week occurrence.
There were really 2 nights on vacation when we came home after looooooong days of drinking. It was nice to see that we can still drink for 10-12 hours at a time and still be up for a roll in the hay like young pups. Both nights, we came back late and had some good, long sex. There's something about alcohol that holds you in the moment like nothing else. Sex is never a chore for us, but without the pressures of kids, work and home life and with a little "liquid encouragement," both of us felt more relaxed and playful and, instead of the typical, married "hurry-it-along" sex, we really got to take our time and enjoy each other.
There was a little kink, too. I have a reputation for getting a little...um...aggressive sexually when I've been drinking. My new fixation has been with her anus. She's recently, somewhat reluctantly, given in to her curiosity about anal sex and she's been rewarded with some earth-shattering orgasms. So we continued to explore a little anal play with predictably sensational results. :D
The conclusion here was foregone: we love drunk sex. As long as nobody is completely out of control, alcohol has a wonderful way relaxing, stimulating and dis-inhibiting you; holding you in the moment and generally enhancing the sexual experience. We don't have it often enough, but drunk sex loses its uninhibited charm if it's a once-a-week occurrence.
Friday, February 11, 2011
Week 6--Washing Machine Sex
I did a lot of reading for this challenge. One of the things that I've never thought of that kept popping up over and over was sex on the washing machine. The theory is that vibrations from the spin cycle are transferred into...um...your groin, making the penis a fleshy vibrator. o_O Seemed worth a try to me. Unfortunately, the only night this week that was a reasonable opportunity for this challenge was a stressful night preceded by a long and stressful day. It was to the point that I thought we would have to redraw, but, in the true spirit of the challenge, we made it happen.
There was a lot more to think about than I thought when I envisioned this, so I did some reading and learned that the "best" positions were: girl-on-top (lotus style), girl on the washer with guy on the floor and doggystyle (bent over the washer). It was a little tricky because 1) we have a top-load washer and 2) the washer is about 2 inches too high for me (or I'm 2 inches too short for the washer). All relatively minor problems...
We threw some laundry in and got started. I hopped up on the washer and she got things started by giving me some of that patented oral. She was kneeling on a nearby stool and found the angle perfect to make me...accessible, which was nice. After a few minutes, we reversed roles--she hopped up on the washer just as the rinse cycle came on. While the height was perfect for her giving me oral, I had some more trouble with finding the right height to reach her. After about 10 minutes, we hit the spin cycle. Here we go! Okay...it wasn't exactly what I read about. It was good, but neither of us felt the vibrations from the washing machine in our genitals. After about 15 minutes of fidgeting and adjusting, trying to find the right position and angle, she hopped down and we finished doggystyle over the washing machine after the cycle ended.
All in all, we both had fun. The night didn't exactly start off perfectly, but we ended up making the most of it. There were challenges: it was cold, the washer was a shade too tall and the positions were pretty uncomfortable. There's also a basement window in the laundry room from our back yard, so the thought of being watched was sort of distracting for her. On the up side, we like using different objects as obstacles, comfort be damned. Also, the novelty of the act was sort of fun. All in all, probably not something that we'd do again, but it was a fun experience.
There was a lot more to think about than I thought when I envisioned this, so I did some reading and learned that the "best" positions were: girl-on-top (lotus style), girl on the washer with guy on the floor and doggystyle (bent over the washer). It was a little tricky because 1) we have a top-load washer and 2) the washer is about 2 inches too high for me (or I'm 2 inches too short for the washer). All relatively minor problems...
We threw some laundry in and got started. I hopped up on the washer and she got things started by giving me some of that patented oral. She was kneeling on a nearby stool and found the angle perfect to make me...accessible, which was nice. After a few minutes, we reversed roles--she hopped up on the washer just as the rinse cycle came on. While the height was perfect for her giving me oral, I had some more trouble with finding the right height to reach her. After about 10 minutes, we hit the spin cycle. Here we go! Okay...it wasn't exactly what I read about. It was good, but neither of us felt the vibrations from the washing machine in our genitals. After about 15 minutes of fidgeting and adjusting, trying to find the right position and angle, she hopped down and we finished doggystyle over the washing machine after the cycle ended.
All in all, we both had fun. The night didn't exactly start off perfectly, but we ended up making the most of it. There were challenges: it was cold, the washer was a shade too tall and the positions were pretty uncomfortable. There's also a basement window in the laundry room from our back yard, so the thought of being watched was sort of distracting for her. On the up side, we like using different objects as obstacles, comfort be damned. Also, the novelty of the act was sort of fun. All in all, probably not something that we'd do again, but it was a fun experience.
Tuesday, February 8, 2011
Week 5--We Vibe
After a series of challenges that were a bit...underwhelming (even if the sex was good), we were really looking for something to get fired up about. As the sex gods would have it, the next card was a 4 of hearts, which was our "mutual toy" challenge. We had stocked up on a few key toys for the challenge over the Christmas holiday and were really excited to try out our We Vibe II. She was as excited as she's been at any point in the challenge, looking forward and counting down to our first opportunity to try this thing out.
We had played with it out of the box when we first got it, so we were somewhat familiar with how to use it. Now, fully charged up, we were ready to play. She sometimes has trouble getting her mind wrapped around new sexual experiences, so I started off giving her a little oral and then we started penetrative sex like we normally do to get her relaxed. But I quickly realized that there's no smooth way to work something so oddly shaped into sex play. At least no way I knew. So, rather inelegantly, I stopped what I was doing to grab the thingy and the lube and started figuring it out how to make it happen.
Immediately, I sensed her tense up a little bit in nervous anticipation, which I was hoping to avoid. The first pitfall was the shape and texture of the toy itself. Its obviously built very specifically, but that shape doesn't make it terribly easy to handle. Its a silicone toy, so plenty of water-based lube is a MUST for comfortable--ahem--operation. But unfortunately silicone + lube + awkward shape = fumble. After finding the handle, we turned it on and found a setting we liked. I inserted the little end into my (at this point, downright jumpy) wife, who started cackling with laughter. Apparently it tickles a little bit. The larger end that houses the vibrator and control button rests against the pubic bone and stimulates the clitoris. At this point, second thing we learned was that it's impossible to use too much lube. If the external part isn't slick, it can play tug-of-war with pubic hair. More lube to the rescue. After a few seconds for her to get used to what she was feeling, I slowly inserted myself, not sure what to expect. I guess I expected it to be tighter, almost uncomfortable, but it felt smaller than it looks. To be honest, I would describe the feeling as a vagina with a plastic ceiling. There's no friction on the top, but the vibration I felt was surprisingly intense even though the vibrator is physically outside of her body.
As we gain some momentum, the giggling stops and the heavy breathing starts. I've read from others' reviews that missionary is the "best" position when using the We Vibe. In another moment of learning, it became apparent that the We Vibe becomes a hard obstruction against the pubic bone if its not inserted far enough to move the external part down off the pubic bone. The problem that we ran into was that when it was in deep enough to be comfortable, it didn't adequately stimulate the clitoris and there was constant adjustment to keep the external part in position during missionary. We changed positions a few times--from missionary, she rolled onto her side, then into doggystyle, then to cowgirl. All of the positions seemed, for the most part, the same; the best position for us was her on her stomach with me entering from behind. In that position, she could use the bed to hold the toy in place over her clitoris and we ended up in that position twice during the hour or so that we used the toy.
But in that hour, she wasn't able to reach orgasm, ONE TIME, which is extremely unusual. Even in the positions with the greatest stimulation, she seemed to enjoy it, but couldn't get over the top. I think the major reason was in between her ears--there was a lot of tension and even more thinking that needed to be done to figure out the most comfortable and best positions. Secondly, she felt like she couldn't "feel me" as well and the flesh-on-flesh friction was decreased significantly. Even after we took the toy out of the equation, she couldn't orgasm because she felt a little sore.
After all of that, we learned some important lessons. It's shaped funny...got it. Lots of lube...check. Watch the pubic bone trauma...piece of cake. Best positions...noted. We consider it a successful challenge, but we plan on having another go with some more knowledge and more comfort with the toy so we can just relax and have fun.
We had played with it out of the box when we first got it, so we were somewhat familiar with how to use it. Now, fully charged up, we were ready to play. She sometimes has trouble getting her mind wrapped around new sexual experiences, so I started off giving her a little oral and then we started penetrative sex like we normally do to get her relaxed. But I quickly realized that there's no smooth way to work something so oddly shaped into sex play. At least no way I knew. So, rather inelegantly, I stopped what I was doing to grab the thingy and the lube and started figuring it out how to make it happen.
Immediately, I sensed her tense up a little bit in nervous anticipation, which I was hoping to avoid. The first pitfall was the shape and texture of the toy itself. Its obviously built very specifically, but that shape doesn't make it terribly easy to handle. Its a silicone toy, so plenty of water-based lube is a MUST for comfortable--ahem--operation. But unfortunately silicone + lube + awkward shape = fumble. After finding the handle, we turned it on and found a setting we liked. I inserted the little end into my (at this point, downright jumpy) wife, who started cackling with laughter. Apparently it tickles a little bit. The larger end that houses the vibrator and control button rests against the pubic bone and stimulates the clitoris. At this point, second thing we learned was that it's impossible to use too much lube. If the external part isn't slick, it can play tug-of-war with pubic hair. More lube to the rescue. After a few seconds for her to get used to what she was feeling, I slowly inserted myself, not sure what to expect. I guess I expected it to be tighter, almost uncomfortable, but it felt smaller than it looks. To be honest, I would describe the feeling as a vagina with a plastic ceiling. There's no friction on the top, but the vibration I felt was surprisingly intense even though the vibrator is physically outside of her body.
As we gain some momentum, the giggling stops and the heavy breathing starts. I've read from others' reviews that missionary is the "best" position when using the We Vibe. In another moment of learning, it became apparent that the We Vibe becomes a hard obstruction against the pubic bone if its not inserted far enough to move the external part down off the pubic bone. The problem that we ran into was that when it was in deep enough to be comfortable, it didn't adequately stimulate the clitoris and there was constant adjustment to keep the external part in position during missionary. We changed positions a few times--from missionary, she rolled onto her side, then into doggystyle, then to cowgirl. All of the positions seemed, for the most part, the same; the best position for us was her on her stomach with me entering from behind. In that position, she could use the bed to hold the toy in place over her clitoris and we ended up in that position twice during the hour or so that we used the toy.
But in that hour, she wasn't able to reach orgasm, ONE TIME, which is extremely unusual. Even in the positions with the greatest stimulation, she seemed to enjoy it, but couldn't get over the top. I think the major reason was in between her ears--there was a lot of tension and even more thinking that needed to be done to figure out the most comfortable and best positions. Secondly, she felt like she couldn't "feel me" as well and the flesh-on-flesh friction was decreased significantly. Even after we took the toy out of the equation, she couldn't orgasm because she felt a little sore.
After all of that, we learned some important lessons. It's shaped funny...got it. Lots of lube...check. Watch the pubic bone trauma...piece of cake. Best positions...noted. We consider it a successful challenge, but we plan on having another go with some more knowledge and more comfort with the toy so we can just relax and have fun.
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