This was more than an opportunity to say "ah." I envisioned our "mouth only" session as an opportunity to prolong oral and focus on giving. No penetration. Less pressure from not using hands = longer than normal playtime capped off with an orgasm. Besides, she almost always cums when I give her oral and I'm good for an automatic orgasm.
We did all of that and it was what we thought it would be...almost. We came upstairs after a long day. I worked and she spent all day (literally) running our daughter to her extra-curricular activities. Both of us starting off exhausted didn't bode well, but I laid her down and started going down on her. I used my hands to enjoy the rest of her body, but only mouth down below. After 20 minutes of teasing, kissing, licking and sucking, she's close, but cant get over the top and wasn't going to. So I resort to using my fingers along with my tongue and give her a long, but somewhat relaxed orgasm. The problem is that clitoral orgasms for her are an appetizer--she's just not satisfied, even with me manually stimulating her G-spot with a finger (cheating, I know).
Then it was my turn. I sat on the bed and she laid on her stomach and began a long process of kissing, licking, tongue flicking and sucking. As great as she is at giving blowjobs--and she is great!--she owes a lot of her proficiency to generous and expert use of her hands. The reproducible result is a mind-blowing, out-of-body orgasm. But I've never had a problem reaching orgasm and shouldn't tonight, even if it takes a little extra mouth work. After another 15 or 20 minutes or so, I realize I'm wrong. I'm there, but like her, I can't get over. And like me, she cheats and uses her hands...to my benefit.
All in all, this wasn't a fan favorite. The point was for some prolonged foreplay, which we both had and enjoyed. Eventually, that relaxation and build up gives way to frustration. If we learned anything, we learned that mouths are nice, but hands are important.
Monday, January 31, 2011
Thursday, January 27, 2011
Week 3--Stairs
When I put "sex on the stairs" in as a challenge, I really didn't know what to expect. The stairs are an unnerving mix of angles and flatness that sort of boggle the sexual mind. At least THIS sexual mind. I stared at them in the nude, hoping for inspiration, but instead of opportunity, I only see discomfort.
But the cardinal rule of this challenge is to be open minded, so we were. Missionary seemed unlikely, so we started off with her giving me some surprisingly amazing oral. All I can think of is that the angles were right. When she tried to climb on top, things went downhill. It was awkward and uncomfortable, bordering on dangerous. With this barely working, I pulled her down a few steps, pulled up her robe (it was cold) and slid in from behind as she used the bannister for support. Eventually, she ended up on her knees with me working up a nice rhythm from behind, at the expense of her knees. I finished quicker than I could have because it was getting really uncomfortable for her.
One of the awesome things about this challenge is that we will find some things that we are going to incorporate into our sex life. This won't be one of them.
But the cardinal rule of this challenge is to be open minded, so we were. Missionary seemed unlikely, so we started off with her giving me some surprisingly amazing oral. All I can think of is that the angles were right. When she tried to climb on top, things went downhill. It was awkward and uncomfortable, bordering on dangerous. With this barely working, I pulled her down a few steps, pulled up her robe (it was cold) and slid in from behind as she used the bannister for support. Eventually, she ended up on her knees with me working up a nice rhythm from behind, at the expense of her knees. I finished quicker than I could have because it was getting really uncomfortable for her.
One of the awesome things about this challenge is that we will find some things that we are going to incorporate into our sex life. This won't be one of them.
Thursday, January 13, 2011
Week 2--Living room
Ten of hearts--living room sex. We put a few of these challenges in to get us out of the bedroom. We've had sex in multiple rooms in the house, including one living room, many times before. But not in a while and not in the other living room. That's opportunity knocking. We have one hesitation. When can we do this when the kids aren't around? It's time to be opportunistic.
The sex gods presented us with an empty house on Wednesday. That's right, no waiting for the last minute on this one. The challenge here was fighting the mid-week exhaustion that seems to plague me. But a quick change of mental gears (and a little of wifey's mind-blowing oral) and I'm in the game. After some nice oral in her favorite chair, followed by some reverse cowgirl action. Then doggie on the floor, some cowgirl on the couch, missionary on the couch and finishing up on the floor with a simultaneous doggystyle orgasms.
There wasn't anything crazy about this challenge, except the fact that we've somehow managed to never have sex in this particular room. I don't think it was particularly exhilarating, beyond normal out-of-the-bedroom sex, but I did think it was fun having new furniture to "play" on. We're really good a changing position frequently without interrupting the flow of sex, and the whole "use the house as a jungle gym" thing suits us well.
The sex gods presented us with an empty house on Wednesday. That's right, no waiting for the last minute on this one. The challenge here was fighting the mid-week exhaustion that seems to plague me. But a quick change of mental gears (and a little of wifey's mind-blowing oral) and I'm in the game. After some nice oral in her favorite chair, followed by some reverse cowgirl action. Then doggie on the floor, some cowgirl on the couch, missionary on the couch and finishing up on the floor with a simultaneous doggystyle orgasms.
There wasn't anything crazy about this challenge, except the fact that we've somehow managed to never have sex in this particular room. I don't think it was particularly exhilarating, beyond normal out-of-the-bedroom sex, but I did think it was fun having new furniture to "play" on. We're really good a changing position frequently without interrupting the flow of sex, and the whole "use the house as a jungle gym" thing suits us well.
Sunday, January 9, 2011
Week 1--Blindfolds
We came up with a fun and playful way to randomly pick our weekly challenge. Fifty-two weeks in a year. Fifty-two challenges. Fifty-two cards in a deck. Coincidence? I got out an old deck of cards, counted them, shuffled them and put them on our dresser in the bedroom. Every week we'll draw a new card. This week: 7 of clubs--blindfolds.
Wifey was a little nervous drawing the first card. "I hope we don't have to start with anything really hard," she says. But, boy, was she excited about blindfolds. She's a very sensitive person, so the sensations that come with sex and physical intimacy are exaggerated for her. Taking away sight, even for a short time, heightens your other senses even further and produces a sense of anticipation that really gets her going. Me? I'm not as excited about this one. I think it can be fun, but I really like to look at her naked body. Not having one, we jumped on line and ordered one up as part of a light bondage kit and some other toys and aids.
As life would have it, we completely lost the sexual momentum that we gained over the holidays, and we got pushed back to the last possible minute: 10pm Saturday night. We went upstairs and I put on our new blindfold, which was a piece of crap. So we got a scarf out and I tied it around her eyes, pushed her down on the bed, took off her clothes and told her to wait there. After doing some reading earlier, I decided to go with alternating hot/cold beverages during cunnilingus. She really enjoyed it and was constantly wondering what I was touching her with. After she came a couple of times, she gave me a little oral and we proceeded with penetrative sex with her blindfold still on. We started with doggystyle and proceded to, as we typically do, flow into multiple positions, one after the other. After she had a couple more orgasms, I finished.
Afterward, we talked about the experience. First, we agree that it's a tough challenge to start with because its usually combined with other stuff. With 51 other challenges, it was tough to figure out what to do without using something that's the focus of an upcoming challenge. The oral part was really good for her, but I think what it did was make me focus on giving her oral and prolonging and intensifying the experience for her instead of rushing through it to get to sex. I used more fingers along with my tongue and the added dimension of temperature was exciting. Also not having her vision was exciting for her because 1) it created anticipation and 2) she was completely disoriented to where we were on the bed.
So, all in all, it was a good experience. We felt a lot of pressure to get it done in time, especially the first one. God help us if we fail the first challenge. But we did and it was a success. It was definately something that we'd be willing to try again.
Wifey was a little nervous drawing the first card. "I hope we don't have to start with anything really hard," she says. But, boy, was she excited about blindfolds. She's a very sensitive person, so the sensations that come with sex and physical intimacy are exaggerated for her. Taking away sight, even for a short time, heightens your other senses even further and produces a sense of anticipation that really gets her going. Me? I'm not as excited about this one. I think it can be fun, but I really like to look at her naked body. Not having one, we jumped on line and ordered one up as part of a light bondage kit and some other toys and aids.
As life would have it, we completely lost the sexual momentum that we gained over the holidays, and we got pushed back to the last possible minute: 10pm Saturday night. We went upstairs and I put on our new blindfold, which was a piece of crap. So we got a scarf out and I tied it around her eyes, pushed her down on the bed, took off her clothes and told her to wait there. After doing some reading earlier, I decided to go with alternating hot/cold beverages during cunnilingus. She really enjoyed it and was constantly wondering what I was touching her with. After she came a couple of times, she gave me a little oral and we proceeded with penetrative sex with her blindfold still on. We started with doggystyle and proceded to, as we typically do, flow into multiple positions, one after the other. After she had a couple more orgasms, I finished.
Afterward, we talked about the experience. First, we agree that it's a tough challenge to start with because its usually combined with other stuff. With 51 other challenges, it was tough to figure out what to do without using something that's the focus of an upcoming challenge. The oral part was really good for her, but I think what it did was make me focus on giving her oral and prolonging and intensifying the experience for her instead of rushing through it to get to sex. I used more fingers along with my tongue and the added dimension of temperature was exciting. Also not having her vision was exciting for her because 1) it created anticipation and 2) she was completely disoriented to where we were on the bed.
So, all in all, it was a good experience. We felt a lot of pressure to get it done in time, especially the first one. God help us if we fail the first challenge. But we did and it was a success. It was definately something that we'd be willing to try again.
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