The Home Stretch

Well, we survived another Christmas and we're heading down the home stretch to The Challenge.  We're excited.  Very excited.  On average, we have sex 2-3 times/week...and that's part of the reason for The Challenge--it's not enough for us.  Not only that, but when we do have sex, it's what we call "get-me-over" sex.  Like a "get-me-over" fastball...not your best stuff, but you just need to throw a strike to avoid getting behind.  All sex is good sex to us, but we can go weeks without having passionate, engaged sex and that affects intimacy, which affects our relationship.

Undertaking this will undoubtedly teach us a lot about sex, about ourselves and about or relationship.  In fact, we've already started to learn things and The Challenge hasn't even started yet.  Lesson #1: coming up with 52 different sex themes is fucking hard.  I mean, that's a lot of different stuff, especially for a couple that's not into hardcore kink (BDSM, swinging, rape, etc.).  But now, 7 days before The Challenge begins, we can claim our first victory!  Yes, the list is complete and ready for us to begin.  There are 52 weekly sex challenges--some hard, some not-so-hard.  Some are variations on the same theme, some are distinctly different from all others.  A large part of the last couple of weeks has been spent in heavy research (awesome, awesome research), which means watching lots of porn and surfing kink websites for fun ideas to finalize our list. A favorable by-product of that has been that we've had sex 5 out of the last 6 days, so it seems that Lesson #2: is that talking and thinking about The Challenge has done as much for our sex life as anything in the last couple of years.

As excited as we are to start this thing, first, a couple of ground rules:

1. Everything gets an honest effort.  We may not complete every challenge, but we both have to honestly give it a shot and try to make it work, not just bail out because we're out of the box.  We're both pretty open minded, so that shouldn't be a problem.  That said, either party can abort the mission at any time.
2. The procedure: there are 52 numbered challenges.  We will randomly pick one from the list at the end of the previous week.  Some are subject to interpretation, so we'll decide exactly what we're going to do before the week starts.  We then have the entire 7-day week (which, for our purposes, will be defined as Sunday-Saturday) to complete the challenge.  If a challenge is impossible to complete in that week, we will re-draw.
3. Have fun, be playful.  Sex is fun.  I can be an intense guy and one of the things that I struggle with is keeping sex fun and lighthearted.  Sometimes I just lose that playful feeling, so this rule is more for me than for her.

That's basically it.   We'll draw our first challenge later this week and be on our way after the ball drops.